One thing you learn once you start studying physiology is that muscle strength is created by lifting weights, which creates tiny tears in the tissue. Within 48 hours after creating the tiny tears, they start to keloid, and become stronger. That is muscle strength: tearing and then becoming stronger. This parallels life. If we allow ourselves, we can become stronger in the very places we’ve been broken. (Paraphrased quote of Jane Fonda from “Oprah’s Master Class”.)
To reset a bone, sometimes you have to break it.
To become stronger and better in the very places we’ve been broken. Broken. What a unique yet simple thought… It is like we have forgotten: the design of our physiology is break down to build up. Remember the journey gets you to your destination.
With everything in life, there is a lesson to be learned. Many of my friends and I have discussed how we believe in limited fate; that there is a certain master design to our lives but ultimately we are left to make the decisions that carry us through our journey. Each decision we make influences an area in our lives; not only our lives – but also the lives of others. It is important that we take responsibility for our choices and the consequences they entail.
The other day I was speaking to one of my friends regarding staying at my current place of employment, in a position that is definitely not my ideal career choice, for nearly two years now. He advised that I must still be here because there is still something for me to learn. Up until that moment, that’s generally the attitude that I had regarding things. I adopted the notion that you are in a position/circumstance (in life) until you learn what you should learn there. Then I started thinking: that alleviates a huge responsibility; thinking that you have time to stay in a current situation until you get around to learning what you need to learn. I started thinking… over-thinking, most likely… and came to the conclusion that it’s possible you’re in a position for a certain amount of time, regardless. It is your own responsibility to use the learning experience wisely; your own responsibility to learn what you should learn within that allotted timeframe. It is a rolling effect; what you fail to learn at this life point may hinder you at your next life point. Comparably, what you learn in this life circumstance will assist you in your next circumstance. There is a master design, but you are still left in the control seat.
Each second should be taken as a learning opportunity. Open your eyes and look around you. Stop going through the motions and actually start living – you might see something that has been there all along.
Today is January 25th, 2012. 25 years ago today (1987), on Super Bowl Sunday at 12:01pm, I made my entrance into this world. I’m an Aquarius – Tiger. I share this day with two women I highly respect: Alicia Keys and Etta James…
WASN’T THAT PARAGRAPH BORING ? !
Instead of writing all about myself this year for my birthday, I decided to write 25 lessons learned by the age of 25. Enjoy. Please feel free to share lessons you’ve learned; I’d love to hear them! ;)
Yes, I know. I repeat these statements all the time! But lessons learned are always worth repeating. These may not all qualify as ‘lessons’, but they are my life mottos.
1) You cannot PLAN the future, but you CAN prepare for it. PREPARE. If you’re not over-prepared you ARE under-prepared!
2) You can’t always help what happens in life- but you CAN choose what to take from it and how to deal with it.
3) I don’t make ‘New Year Resolutions’; I make ‘New Day Resolutions’. Each ‘New Day’ I try to be a better person; more kind, patient, tolerant, loving, helpful, selfless, and giving.
4) Be grateful and give back! Give time, love, patience, laughter, kindness, tolerance, and to charity! You DO owe the universe for your blessings! … Each moment be grateful for not only what you have, but also what you don’t have that you wouldn’t want. It’s impossible to feel angry, sad, or bitter and feel grateful at the same time…. Give Life the gift of Gratitude and Life will give you the gift of Happiness in return
5) I will remember 9/11/01 as an example of the DAMAGE hate, intolerance, and fear of differences generates. Spread love; never hate.
6) "How people treat you is their Karma; how you respond is yours." –RevRun
7) Love is an action; the verb form of Compassion.
8) My past could have destroyed me, instead it reformed me; that’s what makes life beautiful.
9) Jealousy and Love are antonymic.
10) You can’t always control how the World acts toward You, but You can always control how You act toward the World…
11) “Life is terminal.” –Eric
12) When you allow something to affect your senses so greatly that you cannot even control yourself, you do nothing but disservice yourself. For example: those quick to anger are those most easily controlled by others.
13) If you want a gentleman, you need to act like a lady. Acting like a lady does NOT mean you need to be a domesticated stereotype… It means you have self-control, are kind, etc.
14) You don’t need a reason to help someone. You also don’t need a reason to be kind to someone.
15) “Self-pity takes a lot of maintenance. You have to talk to yourself quite a bit to keep it up.” -Pema Chodron
16) If you ever get the urge to say ‘why me’? why don’t you also wonder ‘why NOT me’?
17) We each believe our own personal theories make the most sense; that’s why those are our personal theories in the first place. Believing you’re the only one right probably means you are wrong. I appreciate everyone’s differences, even if the belief appears negative or closed-minded bc from it I can learn. After all, would we truly know what Day was if there were no Night?
18) If you can’t find Love within yourself, you’ll never find it anyplace else.
19) Never underestimate the power of a genuine smile! You may think being too nice is a flaw…but it’s not. I won’t let the world change me.
20) If you care about someone you’re more occupied with his/her wins than your losses. That person’s happiness over-shadows any of your desires; it even over-shadows your needs. Love doesn’t hurt… Selfishness does. Selflessness is the key to a happy world and fulfilling life.
21) "My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness." -Dalai Lama
22) Pride is the most dangerous of the seven deadly sins.
23) If the world were like my Sakai, it’d be a wondrous place.
24) You should never judge people. Just bc someone’s on a different path it doesn’t mean they’re lost… and even if you’ve walked the same path, you wore different shoes. [-I feel like I’ve heard this one somewhere…]
25) Physical Pain is felt to show you that in order to remain alive and well, you need to change something that is wrong. Discontentment or Unhappiness is also felt to show you that in order to remain alive and well, you need to change something that is wrong. I used to think, providing you were always grateful for what you had, happiness was inevitable… For some reason I woke up this morning thinking that discontentment is sometimes nature’s way of showing us Change is needed for the betterment of ourselves and/or others. Take action; this is nature’s way of telling you, ‘you’re wasting your time, and possibly the time of others’. #Change #Improve #BeGrateful
You are given 86400 seconds a day. We all know that the blink of an eye can change your world or someone else’s. You’re given 86400 chances to make a change each day. Make a choice.
Thank you to all those in my life; you’ve helped shape who I am and who I will be.
We have bigger houses but smaller families;
More conveniences, but less time;
We have more degrees, but less sense;
More knowledge, but less judgment;
More experts, but more problems;
More medicines, but less healthiness;
We’ve been all the way to the moon and back,
but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbour.
We build more computers to hold more information to produce more copies than ever but have less communication.
We have become long on quantity, but short on quality.
These are times of fast foods but slow digestion;
Tall men but short character;
Steep profits but shallow relationships.
It’s a time when there is much in the window, but nothing in the room.
I hope you do the same.
It’s not that I agree this is the way we should be… but I think this is the way many of us are. Looking back on our own memories and filling in the ugly holes. I think she has a beautiful way of commanding the English language and expressing something done in every day life, beautifully.
One reason optimists retain a positive outlook even in the face of evidence to the contrary has been discovered, say researchers.
A study, published in Nature Neuroscience, suggests the brain is very good at processing good news about the future.
However, in some people, anything negative is practically ignored - with them retaining a positive world view.
The authors said optimism did have important health benefits. Scientists at University College London said about 80% of people were optimists, even if they would not label themselves as such.
Ten years ago today, the world stopped.
The unimaginable occurred: the most invincible country (in its most invincible city) was shut down…
Are we better off than we were that day? Are we smarter? Stronger? Wiser? … NO.
We continue to allow differences between us divide and override the similarities between us all as human beings; differences such as race, religion, color, nationality, sex, orientation, class, education, culture, etc. The individuals who lost their lives ten years ago today were a victim of hate based on differences.
United we stand, divide we fall – as citizens of the WORLD. When are we going to stop looking at ourselves as Americans and start looking at ourselves as fellow human beings? If we can’t do that, we are no better than the individuals ‘we’ call ‘enemies’; individuals spreading division among people, fueling fear of differences, embracing hate, and encouraging violence such as what we saw on 9/11/01.
In honor of those who lost their lives on this day ten years ago, pledge to be a better PERSON. Pledge to be a better citizen of the WORLD: a person who will not be quick to judge; a person who will not hate; a person who will not fuel the fire of violence. Don’t we owe it to them? This, I feel, would be the best way to respect their short lives and sacrifice.
Thank you to each individual who risked your life (or gave your life) on this day ten years ago to help another. You are an example of the pledge we should make to be selfless, compassionate, kind members of our world.
How will I remember 9/11/01?
I will remember that day as example of the damage hate and intolerance can generate.
I Pledge to:
-spread love, never hate
-be accepting and tolerant of others
-never accept or promote violence as a solution
-be compassionate and kind
-live with humility and remain humble
I am, of course, not perfect, but I will do these to the best of my ability. What will you do?
My friend, Melaney Thurman: “I know what loss truly is. Therefore I have discovered a strength inside me I cannot explain. People can hurt me, they can be wrong to me, and I still find myself with grace I cannot explain. I only wish and want better for them. I cannot be hateful or unforgiving. But that’s not the hard part, the hard part is, believing one of these days it will pay off. And still THAT even feels selfish.”